Would you cry if you were bald

Buzzcut: I finally dared & you should too

Photo: Josh Kirby / Kelly Dougher.
As I write this, I run over my head. I used to run through my hair when I got a blockage. My colleagues always had to laugh when they saw me in the hallway with wildly tossed hair. A week after I completely shaved off my hair, it just feels great to stroke my head, soft and silky. When I look in the mirror now, all I can see is my face. Hair no longer blocks the view, everything is free.
Other people like to touch my bald head too. Some ask beforehand, others don't. Women in particular tell me that they think the new haircut is great, but that they would never trust themselves to shave their head. I always say that they should do it anyway. In addition to the practical arguments for this, there is another one that can be summed up in one word: freedom. No more products and devices, no more styling, no more visits to the hairdresser, no more fear of flat hair under the hat.
Photo: Josh Kirby / Kelly Dougher.
A day after shaving off my hair, I realized that I no longer needed any of the products that clogged my small bathroom: serum, spray, dry shampoo, gel, wax, pomade, hair perfume, straightening iron, hair dryer, hairpins and - rubbers, everything came off. So my new hairstyle not only saves me time, it also saves a lot of money and space: Apart from shampoo, I don't have to buy anything anymore. And I don't have to go to the hairdresser any more. I just grab my razor every few weeks, but that's about it. Admittedly, now that I'm bald, I need one thing more than before: sun protection. I use a light, non-greasy spray to protect my scalp. And when the sun shines too much, I put on a hat.
But I have to admit that I too had concerns before taking the plunge. Various thoughts went through my head: What if I have a strange head shape? Maybe a huge dent that I don't know about. What if a bald head doesn't look good? Or if my mother ... - no, my mother will definitely cry.
In our society, long hair is still linked to female attractiveness. Not only my mother thinks that, but most other people too. And of course I want to please my mother. And I don't care completely what everyone else thinks.
If I enter “Charlize Theron Buzzcut” on Google (she had it for Mad Max shave), the headlines are rather skeptical. The Daily Mail headlined: "Charlize Theron is brave and bald", Us Weekly said: "Charlize Theron has no qualms about showing off her much-discussed buzzcut" and shot the bird Pe ople StyleWatch from: "Do you think Sean Penn likes Charlize Theron's Buzzcut from Mad Max?" In short: Shaving your head is apparently terribly brave.
Photo: Josh Kirby / Kelly Dougher.
I wish it wasn't a sign of lioness to allow yourself a buzzcut as a woman. In the end, it's just hair and paying so much attention to it can only backfire. After all, there are people who are going through chemo or who have alopecia. And they certainly do not need on top that society insists on treating the bald head as a symbol of otherness and not just as a hairstyle. My three brothers, for example, often shave their hair off in summer when it gets too hot for them. No one cares. When I came around the corner with the idea, however, all family members were skeptical to negative.
I am not saying that now everyone should shave a buzzcut to fight patriarchy. I'm just saying that if you've always wanted to try out what your bald head looks like, but you're scared of how people will react, you should just give a shit about their opinions. Ever since I got a buzzcut, I've had a lot of stupid comments from both men and women, from "I think it's nicer when my girlfriend has longer hair than me" to "What if you have an interview now?" . And I've got at least as many compliments, also from men as women. Some have even told me that I've never looked more beautiful. I ignore the insults, I gladly accept the compliments. But neither do I really itch one or the other.
I didn't shave my hair because I wanted to be beautiful. But free.