Why do we seek confirmation from others

People who are looking for attention

Last update: 03 January, 2018

We all know people who live to attract the attention of others. In their most intense form, they are unbalanced and suffer from a condition attributed to a larger group of personality disorders. In general, personality disorders are characterized by maladjusted behavior and thought patterns that deviate from social norms.

In the category that is in Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders listed as personality disorder group B, there is a personality disorder characterized by an exaggerated search for attention. It is rarely recognized by society because Mostly integrate those affected well into their work and social environment. It becomes difficult for them in close personal relationships, as they are very emotional and prone to drama. They use manipulation to get what they want.

These people are characterized by emotional, affective and stimulating turmoil. Most often, this personality disorder develops in young adulthood, includes inappropriate seduction and an excessive need for reassurance.

"Most of the problems in the world are caused by people who seek attention."

T. S. Eliot

The pattern of the exaggerated search for attention

People who are constantly looking for attention often have good social skills, however, they use them to manipulate others and to move themselves into the center of attention. If they cannot arouse interest, it drains them. They depend too much on getting confirmation from others and build their self-esteem from it. They are like children performing by singing or dancing to get the adults' attention.

How else do you recognize them?

  • They are uncomfortable in situations where they are not the focus of attention.
  • Your interaction with others contains a sexually seductive or provocative component.
  • They use their looks to attract attention.
  • Your emotions are superficial and change rapidly.
  • Her emotional expression is dramatic, theatrical and exaggerated.
  • You are easily impressed and influenced by other people and circumstances.
  • They think their relationships are more intimate than they really are.

“People with large egos need to be the center of attention, want recognition, and care very little about others. In contrast, a healthy self-esteem allows us to respect our own desires and those of others. "

Andrew Matthews

People with a high need for attention

People with high emotions are usually wrong when evaluating their personal situation. They are unrealistic, dramatic, and play up their difficulties. They are unsteady, change their environment regularly, get bored easily, prefer to give up because of frustration rather than facing a problem. They are always looking for something new and exciting, which can even put them in dangerous situations.

There is a great deal of selfishness hidden in their need for affection and attention. In general, the only thing they worry or care about is themselves. They are very sociable and love to be around people, but only if they can be the focus of interest. When someone is going through a difficult time, it is more of a burden for them to stand by them, unless they can make themselves so indispensable.

They also tend to be jealous of anyone who tries to tower above or measure themselves against them in their search for attention. They use external traits to get attention and think that they are the most attractive people in the world. And they have no qualms about advocating provocative and even inappropriate beliefs, thinking that others are madly attracted to them even when there is no reason to do so.

Your main concern is to be noticed and cause a stir wherever they go. You depend too much on feeling important.

It is recommended that you solve this personality disorder with professional help and thus build a healthy self-esteem. The psychologist helps to understand and internalize the idea that there are other things that are more enjoyable than the approval of others. For example, taking care of the people you love or even yourself.

"Nobody has recognized the meaning of life until they have given up their ego to serve others."

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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