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When teenagers get really hurtful

A little embarrassed to be found: okay. But how do you deal with blatant insults? Educational advisor Jan-Uwe Rogge explains.
Teens test their limits. But sentences like “You really suck” or “Nobody is more stupid than you” go too far, right?

Such sentences are often uttered when the mood is charged. But it is important that I talk to my child about it in peace and say: That really hurt me.

How can you talk to the child calmly in such a situation?

For now, ignore the insult and walk away. Once I have calmed down, I can approach my child. In the conversation I should make it clear how much what I said hurt me. And try to find out what's behind it. There are parents who are on a friendly level with their children - which annoys them. So with such a sentence the subliminal message "Take yourself seriously, mom!" Can resonate.

Do adolescents shoot with sharper word cannons in times of social media?

Would be nice if you could say that, wouldn't it? Then you would finally have a scapegoat. In fact, Socrates and Aristotle were the first to write about adolescent words to their parents. And they lived before Christ. That shows: Even back then, adolescents behaved rather blatantly.

Do daughters find their mother more embarrassing and sons their father?

The embarrassing argument usually takes place on the same-sex level. Mothers often pull off a Forever Young number. Means: You dress in a particularly youthful manner. This is a challenge for female teenagers. Fathers, on the other hand, want to prove how cool they are. They then show that they can ride their bikes just as quickly and easily as their sons. Of course they find them really embarrassing.

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